Happy Valentine’s Day! Valentine’s Day is often a bitter sweet holiday. It can be filled with joy, or it can be very isolating. Many people dread this day because it makes them feel lonely, anxious, or unworthy. This day should be about showing appreciation for all those you care about. It does not need to be focused on a significant other. It should also be a day to show a little love to yourself.
However, I understand why it is a triggering day for many. People are posting pictures of gifts and date nights all over social media. Writing long romantic posts describing why they are so lucky to have their boyfriend or girlfriend. This can be very annoying and upsetting to those who are not only struggling to feel good enough for others, but also struggling to feel good enough for themselves.
We are all worthy of love. We are all valuable. Even if there are times you don’t feel loved or worthy. You are!! The most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. As lame as it sounds, you must love yourself before you can love someone else and before you’re truly able to accept love from others. You must truly believe you are good enough and you are worthy. This is can be difficult and most people go through times when they do not like themselves. And its okay. It’s part of being human. We all have doubts, anxieties, and insecurities. It’s normal and you are defiantly not alone if you’re feeling this way. I can only stress the need to reach out for help if you are having a long deep struggle to find love for yourself. Anxiety, depression, and other mental illnesses are nothing to be ashamed of. They are illnesses that need to be treated. Never be afraid to seek help when you need it.
Valentine’s Day is only one day. The romantic posts will slowly fade from your social media pages. The ads for flowers and jewelry stores will stop overwhelming your timelines. BUT if you do not find something to love about yourself, the feeling of loneliness will remain. Use Valentine’s Day as a moment to love yourself. Make a list of things you love about yourself, take time to enjoy nature, read a book you love, eat your favorite food, and celebrate being you. Celebrate being alive! Celebrate being the amazing and unique person you are! And then continue this self-love into your daily life. Continue living as if you’re an incredible human, because you are. You are worthy of love and respect. You are valuable and intelligent.
I would love to hear how you are celebrating yourself this Valentine’s Day. Personally, I work on Valentine’s Day. However, I still took time this week to treat myself to a manicure and make time to meditate and relax. What’s your plan for showing yourself some love?